Who Are You?
"You cannot truly love or know anyone else unless you love and know yourself first."
To develop an open mind, it’s essential to take an honest look at who you truly are. It’s a difficult question to answer. You may believe you know, but seldom do you truly know without outside input.
In 1955, Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham developed the Johari Window, named for both their first names of Joseph and Harry. The Johari Window helps you to better understand your personality.
The Window is made up of four panes, representing the four areas of personality.
Quadrant #1 — Only You Know. This is the area of yourself that you do not wish to disclose to anyone else. It’s the very private and vulnerable part of your personality that holds your fears and doubts. It holds any embarrassing or hurtful event that you did or has happened to you. You choose very carefully who you allow to know this part of you, if anyone at all.
Quadrant #2 — You Show to Others. This is the area of your personality that you share with others in varying degrees, depending upon your trust level with each individual. You feel safe and confident with this part of your personality and the information contained in this quadrant. People are welcome here.
Quadrant #3 — Only Others Know. Though you may not be aware, there is a part of your personality, information about you, which other people know, but you do not. This quadrant holds that part of you. Such knowledge may be bad habits you do without knowing.
Knowledge in this quadrant also may be your potential. Sometimes, others see in us, what we don’t see in ourselves. These are just a few examples. So many things may reside in this quadrant for you.
Quadrant #4 — No One Knows. This area holds any knowledge and potential that you or anyone else has yet to discover. Science has proven that we use only a small portion of our brain’s capacity. Some things from this quadrant, you will discover between now and when you leave this world. The majority of it, you will never know. The fourth quadrant also is the area where dreams are made real, where new theories are born, where new science is first thought and then discovered, and where creativity is given birth. New thought develops here. New ideas that change the world develop here. It’s the unknown part of you ... the creative part of you.
Probably one of the most asked question anyone has ever asked, alongside “Where did I come from?” and ‘Why am I here?”, is “Who am I? We as individuals seem to go ‘soul searching”, a term used to describe the quest one goes on to find the answers to the big questions in life.
Learning one’s self can be a tremendous task, because we have to learn the different aspects of ourselves, such as our physical, mental and spiritual attributes.
We first have to study our biology and all things relating to our five senses(sight, sound, touch, taste, smell)Also all of our physical organs. Physical, mental, and spiritual together are considered as the “tri-forces”. Our three aspects of ourselves are connected, and what affects one affects them all.
We seek to establish our identity and fit in at certain phases of our life. We seek to establish our identities within society and life and what relation we have with the SUPREME HIGHER POWER, The Divine that we cannot fully comprehend because of the magnitude of Power.
What relationship do we share with this power? We have to align ourselves and be in tune with all aspects of our life, which is GOD, Self, society, and nature.
So in knowing self, we build a defense to peer-pressure and influence and ignorance. Once we gravitate toward the Truth we become truth-seekers and thirsty for the knowledge of the Universe.
The Importance Of Knowing Yourself
“It takes truly knowing yourself inside and out to be able to differentiate your thought patterns from the “voice” of God.”
Knowing yourself is a very important task that one has to undertake and the most challenging as well. When one knows who he is and clearly understands what he wants, then he has a better option of discovering how to reach his own success, personal fulfillment, and happiness.
“To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all- that is genius. The inmost in due time becomes the outmost. Each one of us represents a divine idea, and God will not have his work made manifest by cowards.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Knowing one’s true and inner self will be of great help in working to reach one’s goals more effectively. It will guide one through the path to success. It will transport one to such calmness so to improve one’s attitude as well as one’s relationships and connections with others.
You, therefore, need to discover and improve your true person and not what others perceive you to be, and also not who you believe you must be, but the person that you truly are. be objective, be forgiving of yourself, and focus on your areas for improvement.
As Aristotle insisted" we become what we are as persons by the decisions that we ourselves make."
"The really excellent and central point of existentialism is the acceptance of responsibility for being as we have made ourselves, the refusal to make bogus excuses."-Mary Midgley
“In self-discipline, one makes a "disciple" of oneself. One is one's own teacher, trainer, coach and "disciplinarian." -William J Bennett
Webster's defines our manners as our "morals shown in conduct."
Self-discipline is learned in the face of adversity.
Socrates on self-discipline
“Every man is his own ruler. One should be temperate and master of themselves, and ruler of their own pleasures and passions.
And will not the temperate man do what is proper, both to God and to men/women; for he would not be temperate if he did not. Certainly, he will do what is proper and just
There appears to be an aim which one ought to have, and toward which he or she ought to direct all their energies, having temperance and justice and be happy, not having restrained lusts, and in the never-ending desire to satisfy them leading to a robber's life. Such a one is neither friend of God nor man, for he is incapable of communion, and he who is incapable of communion is also incapable of friendship. Communion and friendship and orderliness and temperance and justice bind together heaven and earth and gods and men, and that this universe is therefore called cosmos or order, not disorder or misrule.”-Socrates
Aristotle on Self discipline
Virtue, then, is of two kinds, intellectual and moral. Intellectual virtue springs from and grows from teaching, and therefore needs experience and time.
Moral virtues come from habit....they are in us neither by nature, nor in spite of nature, but we are furnished by nature with a capacity for receiving them, and we develop them through habit. These virtues we acquire by first exercising them, as in the case of other arts. Whatever we learn to do, we learn by actually doing it: men come to be builders, for instance, by building, and harp players, by playing the harp. In the same way, by doing just acts we become just; by doing self-controlled acts, we come to be self-controlled.
How we act in our relations with other people makes us just or unjust.
It is easy to get angry or to spend money-anyone can do that. But to act the right way toward the right person, in due proportion, at the right time, for the right reason, and in the right manner is not easy, and not everyone can do it.